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“The map is not the territory” by June O’Driscoll

No two human beings have exactly the same experiences. The model that we create to guide us in the world is based in part upon our experiences. Each of us may, then, create a different model of the world we share and thus come to live in a somewhat different reality.

……….Important characteristics of maps should be noted. A map is not the territory it represents, but, if correct, it has a similar structure to the territory, which accounts for its usefulness……….

(Alfred Korzybski, Science & Sanity, 4th Ed, 1958, pp58-60).

Have you ever read a great book and you have brought the characters to life with your imagination, you get a sense of what they look like, how they sound and how they feel. Then the book is made into a film and suddenly the characters look very different to your pictures, the voices do not match your representations and maybe the characters don’t portray the same feelings, you felt.

When we read a book we are filtering the information through our model of the world and in order to make sense of this information we delete, distort and generalise what we read. The author of the book undoubtedly has a different model of the characters, as does the film makers and directors. Who is right?

(Practice with friends or family)

The Cat sat on the mat

When you think about the phrase ‘The cat sat on the mat’

What colour is the cat?

Is the cat short haired or fluffy?

Is the cat real or a cartoon?

How big is the cat?

Ask the same questions to a group of friends

How different are the answers? Who is right?

Well the answer is of course, you are all right and the reasons the answers are different is because we all have our own maps of reality, our own filters of making sense of what we see, hear, feel, smell and touch. In addition to the way we distort, delete and generalise our map, we also filter through our own beliefs, values and emotional states. If when asking the questions one of your friends believes cats are vermin and another friend absolutely adores cats, I wonder how different their maps would be and how different their emotional state would be?

Limiting Beliefs

The limiting belief filter of a person’s map of the world, at some stage may have served a purpose and it may be useful to recognise in what context the limiting belief may now not be so useful and restricting. For instance, a child may have been told to eat all the food on their plate as it is wrong to waste food, therefore the belief is now born ‘I must always eat everything on my plate’. In adulthood that belief may not be as useful, particularly if they have a weight problem, the limiting belief can be the saboteur.

Belief Change Technique.

Original Version - Belief Change - Robert Dilts model http://www.nlpu.com/Patterns/pattern3.htm

(The method I demonstrated is a shorter, June adapted version of the Robert Dilts Model, which I use with Corporate Clients).

States

When a person is in a stressed state their map may not be as useful and their choices may seem limited. Therefore to be able to reduce this stress very quickly can be a great way of enriching someone’s map.

One Point Technique

One Point is a technique used in Aikido, you may have experienced this many times but did not realise it was called “one point”. When you have been doing something that you felt particularly happy and comfortable with, calm, relaxed and positive, you were keeping one point.

One point is located about two inches below the navel and halfway between your spine and navel, this is the body’s centre of balance. The most powerful motions of the body originate here and the calmest minds are concentrated here.

(Practice with friends or family)

Firstly, Scale the stress level between 1 - 10

Have a friend stand just to your side and ask them to incrementally push you on the shoulder to feel how moveable you are. Now stand with your feet about shoulder width apart and imagine your mind moving to 3 inches below your tummy button and an inch into the centre of your body. Hold One Point (the feeling of your consciousness in the centre of your body).

Now your friend can keep checking if you are in a more centred position by gently pushing your shoulder, it will be firmer when in One Point.

Now holding One Point, let your friend know when it is reducing, if it was 10, let them know when it is 9, 8, 7 etc down to 1.

At 1, imagine that everything went better than you imagined…Hold One Point………Now imagine a few challenges …………Imagine everything goes fantastically well…Hold One Point. Future Pace.

Thank you all for an enjoyable evening!

Best Wishes

June

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